I Love Me: Self Care Steps for Your Well-being

November 18, 2019


I'm a big fan of self care - it's really just routine maintenance for your soul. It helps keep up your energy (& recharge it when you're feeling low) and can improve your overall mental health (as well as your physical, depending on what type of self care you practice). Stress can do some weird and intense things to the body (panic attacks? Yup. I know from experience), so every now and then, I have to unplug & unwind.

As a mom, I'm on 24/7. I wear a lot of hats, and at any given time, I have at a minimum, 10 balls in the air (excuse all my cliche metaphors here, but you get the point). I'm a mom, a wife, a friend, work a full time office job, and I run 2 side businesses (an Etsy shop & my blog). Sometimes, it feels like my world is crashing down around me in slow motion when bad things happen all at once. Other times, I get so busy trying to do so many things at once that I just get completely & utterly drained. Like now for instance. It's been a few weeks since my last blog post - and you know what? That's perfectly ok, because I took some much needed me-time, and a bit of a blogging break to recharge.

There are so many ways to practice self care, and everyone's routine will look a little different. So today, I just wanted to share my personal methods, as well as some of my tips & ideas for self care.



1. Rest
This may seem like such an obvious one, but when you stay so busy balancing work, family, and a social (& social media) life, you can get burnt out, quick. Some people wonder how I find the time to do so much. Often, I joke, "I don't sleep" and honestly, I'm not really joking. There have been several nights where I put Lilly to bed at 7, go through my usual night routine (dinner, spending time with the hubs, chores), then around 9 or 10, I go into full blogging mode and will stay up until midnight or 1 am putting posts together. Blogging takes work, but it's fun and fulfilling to me, so sacrificing some sleep in order to get to do what I love doesn't feel like such a bad trade off. However, I do still have to recharge my batteries once in a while, so sneaking in a quick nap or climbing into bed right after dinner to grab some extra Zzz's helps me maintain my bossgirl status.



2. Wine
They say that wine gets better with age, but honestly, age has gotten better with wine. In my early 20s, I wasn't nearly as into wine as I am now - probably because frat parties didn't really stock up on that sort of thing, so my college years were populated with kegs of Natty (and looking back, I don't know how I ever drank the stuff). Your palette changes so much with age, and once I started dabbling in the world of wine, I quickly discovered its magical properties. Scientifically speaking, wine actually has a lot of health benefits. Wine, in moderation, can reduce the risk of heart disease, aid in boosting your immune system, lower cholesterol, and even promote longevity.

There's something so relaxing about kicking back with a glass of a really bold red, and wine is something that is so versatile: enjoy it solo or make it a social thing. I regularly have girls wine-nights with my friends, and it's usually involved in some capacity for outings & get-togethers. When I've had a particularly tough day (toddler tantrums x100; stressful days at work; etc.), having a glass of wine (or cocktails with friends!) and watching Netflix is usually my go-to for taking the edge off the day.



3. Baths
This one is so cliche but it's popular for a reason. I only take baths when I need a little me-time, and I turn it into a whole ritual. I light candles, use fancy bath products, pour myself a glass of champagne or wine, and play videos or music in the background (or sometimes just sit in the still quiet of the evening). I turn the lights off and just let everything go.


Get yourself a bath caddy and pile on the products: fancy soap (I love Bluff City Soap), bath gel, and a face mask. I also always throw in a bath bomb to make the water fragrant and extra soft. I have a bit of an obsession with bath bombs, and when I travel, I love picking up a couple from local spots.




4. Treat Yo'self
Sometimes you just need to do something nice for yourself. Buy a pretty bouquet of flowers, opt for an extra scoop of icecream (and yes, get the waffle cone), or take yourself out for special treats that you don't get often (which would be beignets for me!) Whatever your version of treating yourself looks like, do it. Maybe that's buying a really fancy/EXTRA pair of shoes or treating yourself to a spa day. Or maybe you're a "go big or go home" kind of girl and it's planning a trip. Which brings me to my next point...



5. Getaways
Travel feeds my soul, so to me, this is the ultimate in self care. Vacations allow us to disengage from our everyday responsibilities and offer a break from the monotony of routine. Getaways are an escape from reality and can really help renew our minds, bodies, and spirit. Whether its a family vacation, a solo trip, or a girls getaway, any kind of travel away from the norm is a great form of self care.


Solo travel is most certainly not for everyone, and I've really only taken 1 solo trip before anyway (& unintentional at that!), but it ended up being one of the best trips of my life. I felt such a sense of independence and excitement being on my own. Doing what I wanted, when I wanted, & having it be 100% about me, was a really exhilarating feeling. If I wanted to sleep in until 10am, I could. If I wanted to post up in a local coffee shop for 3 hours, I could. The itinerary was dependent solely on what I wanted. And knowing that I was in charge of it all & being on my own felt empowering.

I would absolutely love to do another solo trip soon, but there definitely is a stigma attached to solo travel for married people. However, when you have double the time off that your husband has, you use it or lose it. So I take a lot of girls trips, and they are fantastic!


Girls getaways are some of my favorite ways to travel, and I am lucky enough to have a fantastic group of friends that share my love of travel (& also Disney. So yes, there are many Disney girls trips in my past...and still more in the future)! Planning a weekend getaway with your girl tribe strengthens friendships and is a great way to experience something new. Some of my favorite girls trips have been to Disney (obviously), Charleston, New Orleans, and Palm Beach (...still waiting for a Vegas trip)!


There are so many other ways to practice self care. It can be as simple as setting aside an hour of your day to do something you enjoy (read a book, sit on the porch, spend time on a hobby or craft) to more involved activities like a big trip. Here are just a few more ideas to get you started:
  • Read a book
  • Learn a new skill (language, hobby, etc.)
  • Exercise (yoga can be very relaxing)
  • Take a sunrise or sunset hike
  • Get a massage or spa treatment
  • Grab a coffee & go for a walk (I personally love the Chattanooga walking bridge in the early morning)
  • Take a class (painting, cooking, etc. - check out The Chattery, if you're local to Chattanooga)
  • Listen to your favorite music or make a fun playlist
  • Watch a movie
  • Cook your favorite meal
  • Do some mindful breathing
  • Take a social media break (whether that's an hour, a day, a week...whatever you feel you need)
  • Journal
  • Take a mental health day from work & spend time do anything BUT

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